At the middle of the day, though, one thought started to bother me. It all began with the thought on how a friend of mine called her best friend her 'favorite person in the entire universe"...I started wondering.
Whatever happened to my best friends?
I have a best friend named Chot, my best bud who's been with me even while we were in diapers. He's my cousin, best man, blood brother, name it. He's the awesomest dude to ever grace the planet, other than me. haha. But yeah, He has a girl now, and the usual case would be for Him to lose track of everything that's been happening around him and focus on that one person. It's been a long time since we really talked. Like REALLY talked. It makes me wonder if he's ever gonna start hanging out again, let alone noticing everybody else in the world. I pray that time will come that he'll be living a balanced life and he's gonna have time to rock out again.
I had a bestfriend way back my elementary days named Deng but that's mostly because we shared the same passion and we were like the twin artists of our batch. We we're unstoppable when it came to contests, and we hung out pretty much all the time. I even go visit their place alot and i got really close with the rest of the family. But come university days, we sort of drifted apart - i became focused with my other friends and *slight choking* the ladies, while he focused more on his very demanding course - Medicine. We still hang out every now and then along with my high school gang, but yeah, I guess we were just really really good friends.
I have a bestbud back in high school, Val was the name. Funny thing is, He was part of the same group that me and Deng were in. But the fact that we really got along in everything makes him one of my..howdoisaythis..closest best buds ever. Up until now we can talk about anything and everything under the sun, and when we talked it was usually about the finer things in life. Plans. Ideas. Ideals. All that stuff. He's still a best bud, although time really got the best of us and we rarely get together now. He works in the government so just imagine how demanding his workload is. I blame myself partially, though, because i could have stayed in touch more with him. Then again, i'm the guy who keeps messing up, so it's not really a surprise that I had the wrong priorities.
College came and with it came the ladies. College was the period of my life that really shaped me as a man. In my decisions, in my niche, in my confidence and in my style. I quickly came to discover that I have this natural affinity with girls, thus most if not all my friends were female. I became a quintessential BFF to many girls and i was the one they ran to ask for a guy's point of view and such. Also, I started to use the "best friend strategy" to get close to girls that i liked, and mostly it did work. Not always as smoothly as you'd think, but I usually ended up getting good results. Then again, this put a very vague line between friends and lovers, so eventually i stopped doing it, or so i thought.
I have 2 college best friends, both named Irene, both of whom became a special part of my heart, if you know what i mean. We are still close and we still hang out every now and then, but because of the nature of our friendships, it's not exactly clear where they stood in my life before. We still are awesome friends now, but now that i think about it, it took awhile before we really got a "genuine" friendship - without the blemish of any romantic attachment. They are still best friends, but maybe, just maybe, I am looking for something more.
Time passed by and i guess i just stopped looking for a best friend, knowing all full well that it is for naught. best friends, especially with the ladies, is a very big question mark. Unless the lady already has a lover, in which case, you are then ousted as the best friend. It is very difficult to work out. As for the guys, I guess yeah, i still have to reach out to them to really revive the friendship to how it was before..
As it stands, though.. I miss having a favorite person in the entire universe.
- Someone who can be the best brother or sister even if they aren't.
- Someone who will also strengthen you in the Lord and will be one with you in worshipping Him.
- Someone who will not hesitate to tell you off openly if you do something stupid or when you get in trouble.
- Someone who sends off the feeling that they love you even if the only things they mutter and "goodness, you look ugly today,"
- Someone woith whom you can be yourself , and have moments of silence with and not feel feel awkward about it.
- Someone who will laugh with you or laugh at you openly, but can knows when you have to be sad as well and they are just there to be a shoulder to lean on.
- Someone who goes out of way just to hang out, no matter how busy they or you get.
Yes, i miss this kind of friendship very much. I know one day my wife will be my best friend, wherever she is, but i really wish there was something like this in my life as well. A brother. A sister. Whatever. Anyone who can be all these.
